So, this is going to be a mix of a story and education as well. This is mainly for guys who may want to help their wives/girlfriend orgasm through fingering. It can also be useful for any guy who’s inexperienced with a girl. I’ll be giving you guys a brief description with personal experiences on how to finger a girl.
Most girls, especially those who are shy and new to relationships, prefer external pleasure. This means they may not enjoy penetration and sex yet. They prefer more vulva and clitoral stimulation initially.
This is what I’ve seen with most girls I’ve been with. My present Tamil girlfriend is a good example and I’ll teach the fingering methods from early on in the relationship to now.
A quick description of my Tamil GF – she has a height of 168 cm. Her body type is slim and petite but has a very nicely shaped ass and size-B boobs. We’ve been together for 3 years and have a healthy sexual relationship. I am her first boyfriend and so she was not open to sexual topics at first. It took some time before we were able to be sexually active with each other.
Girls who are inexperienced with guys and shy are usually like this. For my girlfriend, the first time she orgasmed with me, was just from clitoral stimulation.
Before you touch a girl’s pussy, you want to get her comfortable and turned on. She will not feel pleasure if she’s not stimulated. Make sure she’s in a good mood and is present. For my GF, we had just gone on a romantic date and were in the car. I brought her to the backseat and began kissing her.
If a girl is comfortable, her kisses and body movements will tell you.
After minutes of kissing, I began playing with her boobs and nipples. Her nipples were already extremely hard and pointed. This is a good sign as it means that the girl is already stimulated and in the mood. The next thing you should do is suck them and get her to enjoy it as much as possible. All this is important because it will get her horny and this will make her pussy get wet. The wetter it is, the better it will be for her. Pay attention to her body as it will tell you when you can begin touching her pussy.
While sucking my GF’s nipples, I noticed that her hips started rocking back and forth. At this point, the girl’s pussy begins to ache and your touch will bring great pleasure. Depending on how comfortable the girl is, you can touch her on top of her panty or directly on her pussy.
For my Tamil girlfriend, she wanted me to touch her panty. This was because she was shy to let me touch her pussy directly. The method and approach are still the same. If you feel wetness on her pussy/panty (which you will definitely feel), compliment her. Girls new with a guy are sometimes nervous. They might be insecure. Don’t be shy to tell them that you like how wet they are. Say things like “I love how wet your pussy is” or “I’m getting hard feeling how wet you are”. It can help boost her confidence and make her more comfortable with your touch.
Start by moving your index and ring finger on the edge of her pussy lips. Don’t let your middle finger touch her pussy yet. Rub the edge of her lips gently back and forth. Squeeze your fingers together gently in between.
Continue this for a minute or so. Slowly lower your middle finger onto her pussy and start rubbing it in the same motion. Don’t be scared to rub your finger on her asshole when moving back and forth. She might be shy to admit it, but it feels good for her. My GF loved it and moaned each time my finger rubbed on her asshole slightly.
Next is to move your finger to her clitoris. Start by using two to three fingers on her clit. Move in gentle circle motions first. For my GF, my fingers were fully wet from just rubbing her panty. Increase the speed and maintain it.
Do not slow down, if you stop to rest, give her a gentle tap on her clit. Make sure the taps are very gentle and not too hard. Then quickly resume the same speed.
Guys prefer different speeds when girls give handjobs. Most girls don’t like changes in rhythm, especially close to orgasm. If you follow these steps, girls usually orgasm pretty fast from this.
It took me just 10 minutes from kissing to giving her an incredible orgasm. So, this was the first time I made her orgasm. Usually, after the first time a girl experiences this with you, she will want more. For my Tamil lover, this was the case.
After a few weeks of sessions in the car, we got a hotel room together. I got her naked and told her I’ll finger her. For girls who are not used to penetration, you need to assure them.
Let them know it might hurt slightly at first. Let her know that it will make her feel good.
The steps are still 90% the same. Get her turned on, wet and horny as possible. Start with one finger before trying two straight. Stroke her inner thighs with your other hand while you insert one finger in her pussy. Don’t shove your whole finger inside at the start. Slowly ease your way in and go deeper with time. When you insert the finger, curve the finger up slightly.
The finger motion should be similar to how you ask a person to ‘come here. Now repeat the same process with 2 fingers. Keep the fingers inside her pussy and repeat the motion. Use your thumb on the outside, to rub her clit. Go on for a few minutes with this motion. At this point, she will be close to orgasm.
Then just speed up slightly and she will cum. If you get good at this method, add in extra stimulation for her. For my GF, I usually suck on her nipples as I finger her before she orgasms. This makes her orgasms extremely intense.
Girls get more pleasure from a whole-body experience compared to guys. Guy’s stimulation is mainly penile and does not require as much attention as girls.
But it’s important to make the girl have a pleasurable experience. The more they enjoy it, the more they will want to do to pleasure your back. My Tamil girlfriend turned from an innocent girl to a horny girl willing to do anything for me in bed. All because I made her experience enjoyable and very pleasurable
I hope this explanation helped and was useful and can be understood. Again, this is mainly for guys who might be inexperienced and guys with shy girlfriends/wives.